Internet claims grandchild doesn’t share $200,000 inheritance with dad: ‘Manipulated’
A grandchild is receiving widespread support online after seeking advice over his decision not to share his $200,000 inheritance with his father.
The Redditor, posted as BobbyBukarabi, shared the sticky situation on the site’s popular AmITheA**hole forum.
They explained that their father cheated on their mother when they were 13 and after getting the other woman pregnant, they left to start their new family.
Referring to their mother, Bobby wrote: “She [was] obviously heartbroken and didn’t know what to do. We had moved to a new state with my dad for work, so she had no family around.
“My dad dumped us like a bad habit soon after this came out. He tried to keep a relationship with me, but ultimately his new family was ‘his priority’ as he said. Hard for anyone to understand. a 13-year-old, but whatever. If he didn’t want me, I wouldn’t need him, so my mom and I left.”
They explained that they were only able to rebuild their lives with the help of their grandmother, their father’s mother, who was in disbelief at her son’s actions.
Bobby said: “She always loved us and was appalled at what her son had done to us. He also stopped seeing her for the most part. We have become very close over the years. Seeing each other for special occasions and vacations while her son was nowhere to be found. She even helped my mother financially when we needed it too.
But as the “years caught up with her”, she developed advanced colon cancer, and within months she was in hospice.
A few days before her death, she asked Bobby to call her son to come see her.
“He had only come to see her a few times since she got sick. When he came I was visiting like we did every few days and he acted like I was a random person “, admitted Bobby.
Their grandmother asked her son to come back the next day, and despite “calls and texts” asking her to come, she died four days later without another visit.
“She left in peace with me and my mother by her side. It was difficult. I miss her every day. She has been my guardian angel for most of my life and I know she continues to watch over me,” they said.
After the funeral, Bobby was shocked to find that their grandmother had essentially left them her entire inheritance.
They explained: “Unbeknownst to anyone, she left me her house and a good amount of money. $200,000. No idea she did, but in the will there is had a note from her that said, ‘You’re worth it. I love grandma.’ She is incredible. Also, in her will, she left my dad exactly $1 as an inheritance.
The news didn’t go down well with the father, who went “ballistic” after finding out, “blowing up my phone all the time. Demanding that I give him ‘his house and his money'”.
Their dad’s new family also got involved, as they wrote, “His new wife and son were texting me a lot and his son was writing on social media that I manipulated my grandma.”
Their father ended up apologizing, but to add insult to injury he told his eldest: “My father apologized and said he was very stressed because he was in debt and that he was relying on that money to pay bills and send his son to college. It made me feel bad. Like maybe I should give him something.”
After some thought, they decided not to split the money with him, but said: “I think that makes me a jerk because it looks like they really need it. But from another side, f*** him.”
The post, shared on Monday, has already garnered more than 15,000 upvotes and nearly 2,000 comments, as the online community urged Bobby to double the inheritance, donating an extra $1.
Explaining more about the grandmother’s decision, BaconEggAndCheeseSPK wrote: “The reason she left him $1 was to make it clear to the court in case he tried to challenge the will, that she hadn’t forgotten to include him, but that she intended to disinherit him.
“She knew her son would try to take the money she left you. It’s a very common practice to leave $1 when you disinherit someone. Respect your grandmother’s wishes and don’t give a penny to your father.”
Young_coastie agreed, saying, “Yeah. As soon as I read that grandma left him $1, it was clear she knew exactly what she was doing. OP, she wanted him to have exactly what ‘she had left him. Keep having no contact, you know he’s not worth the headache.”
Cms151 also noted, “So Grandma’s share, including the $1.00, was so he couldn’t contest the will. If it wasn’t included, he could contest it. But leaving $1.00 is to show it’s included but disinherited. It’s the biggest FU she could give and she knew exactly what she was doing when she did it.”
Rubyredgrapefruits asked, “Yeah, why did he send his son to college and not his daughter? Now he expects OP to pay for his son’s college? That would be an insult to the grandma to give anything to her dad. The stepbrother isn’t at fault here – if he wants a relationship or is interested in meeting them, that’s fair enough.”
While throwawayact75 pointed out, “Building on a legacy from his mother that he hardly ever saw and taking it from the child he hardly ever saw.”
Rbuff187 said, “Don’t give ANY money to your dad!! Or his ‘replacement’ family. He’s in debt? It’s his fault and it’s not because he supported you! NTA! I I’m sorry for the loss of your guardian angel.”
Although it is not specified where the family is based and what inheritance laws apply, it is common knowledge to disinherit with a dollar.
The Bdibblelaw website explains, “You absolutely don’t have to leave anything for everyone, and while leaving someone $1 might seem insulting, it probably isn’t. Some people simply use this tactic of leaving a small inheritance to effectively disinherit the child.
“Usually the goal is not to give the child $1, but simply to recognize that the absence of a larger inheritance is intentional. A will that simply does not mention a child may seem incomplete. A will that gives them a dollar makes it clear that they shouldn’t get anything more and it was done on purpose.”
Newsweek has contacted BobbyBukarabi for comment.